Adult women often define themselves through their roles as daughter, sister, mother, girlfriend, partner and wife. Feeling unsuccessful in these roles or guilty for wanting more and then adding on the stress of work both at the office and home often leads women to feel maxed out. Spread thin through multiple demands many feel as if they have done nothing right.  Women struggle to value themselves for what they do and who they are.

The key to combating depression and anxiety is through the use of supportive therapy coupled with evidence-based treatments – treatments that are established through research as most successful. In addition to these approaches, so much more is captured and gains made when a woman’s problems are understood within the unique narrative of her relationships, dreams and demands.  At Tompkins and Associates, we work to empower women to feel and become more effective and in control of their lives and relationships.


Pregnancy Related Mood and Anxiety

Pregnancy and giving birth is transformative.  Studies show that 80% percent of women have a positive experience. Gradually these women adjust to the new physical and emotional demands of motherhood.  Slowly life takes on a new normal as mother and baby adjust.

For 20% of women, it’s not that way at all. These women find themselves on an emotional journey they never expected.  Not feeling like themselves, they move through the pregnancy and/or postpartum experience feeling increasingly overwhelmed and exhausted.  They can feel inadequate, anxious, sad, unmotivated, confused, angry – even terrified.  Sleep deprived and desperate to cope, these new Moms inch further away from normal. They increasingly feel despair and or panic while trying to hide the turmoil inside.

These women are not failing motherhood.  Rather they are experiencing the symptoms of pregnancy related anxiety and depression, the most common complication of childbirth.  These symptoms have an all too real biological basis, and unfortunately do not get better on their own.

Fortunately,  postpartum anxiety and depression is 100% treatable with a combination of supportive therapy and in some cases medication that is well established in the research literature as safe for both the mother and developing baby.  Working cooperatively with you, your partner and other health care providers, you can soon feel normal again as life moves on for you and your little one.


One of the hardest feelings for a woman and a couple to tolerate is the longing for a child who won’t come.  There are many decisions to be made about how far to go and when to stop as you negotiate the labyrinth of choices, both medical and personal.  At Tompkins and Associates, we are sensitive to what you are going through and seek to gently hold you as you manage this journey of hope.

Child Loss

The death of a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death presents one of life’s most devastating losses.  Absorbing this loss is pain beyond description, a profound sadness.  Lost is not only your child but also your belief in the goodness of life itself.  Honoring the loss, questions of trying again, daring to hope, and loyalty to your lost child are all matters that need time and a safe place to gently unfold.  At Tompkins and Associates, we offer a private, supportive place to bring your sorrow as you struggle to understand the unimaginable and eventually attempt to move forward.